I was in a rat race seeking a relationship that made me feel visible. Longing for togetherness seemed to be a never-ending journey.
I thought it was human to seek something to feel good. Soon, I found it was too overwhelming for me to live with such a feeling. I felt I was losing a piece of myself.
And then came a time when I took loneliness in my stride.
Guess what happened next?
I became too comfortable being alone. I discovered the innate powers of loneliness. Slowly, I learnt not to worry or panic.
1. Rediscover myself.
Being alone gives you time to understand yourself.
I said to myself,
“It’s ok to be alone.”
“It’s perfectly fine, not to please others.”
I shut the doors to others’ expectations and developed the courage to pursue my passion, which is reading and writing.
The courage to be myself served as a medicine to my restless mind.
1. Rediscover myself.
Being alone gives you time to understand yourself.
I said to myself,
“It’s ok to be alone.”
“It’s perfectly fine, not to please others.”
I shut the doors to others’ expectations and developed the courage to pursue my passion, which is reading and writing.
The courage to be myself served as a medicine to my restless mind.
2. Treasure of emotional independence.
How does it feel to be bombarded with questions that you constantly ask yourself?
The irony is that we look for answers from others. Depending on validation from others on whether what I was doing was right or wrong had become a new norm.
I wanted to break free from the shackles of validation.
Soon, I realized that loneliness doesn’t make me less of a human being.
Then I asked myself-
“Is it worth being dependent on others for your emotional needs?”
“Do I always need approval from others for being morally correct?”
Believe me. The answer I got from my inner self was — ‘No’.
3. Boost to Creativity.
When you give time to yourself, imagination embraces you.
I realized life is too precious to struggle in silence.
I started writing for my website, and I learned animation. Time flew.
Developing a habit of writing every day improved my writing skills. Consistency gave wings to my imagination. This realization was a boon.
I could channel my energy in the right direction. I started visiting book fairs, started reading blogs, and learning something new every day.
This was something I always wanted to do.
My soul smiled when I started drawing cartoons for my YouTube channel.
I found myself, and I felt honored.
Trust me, it is bliss.
4. Stronger boundaries and self-respect.
I had walked through fire, and then I learnt to protect my mental peace.
Choosing myself over others gave me the kind of positive energy I wanted to surround myself with.
Moreover, listening to spiritual songs helped me to discover the path to self-realization.
Solitude was turning out to be a bliss and my haven.
As a kid, I was scared to be left alone. I was worried about not being included with my friends. I used to wonder, what was the worst, getting scared of darkness or being alone?
As I grew, I realised that some toxic people will always take undue advantage of any vulnerable situation. When you make self-respect a priority, you know your limits. You know how to make stronger boundaries around you, so that others don’t hurt you.
5. Comfort in my own company.
Is it difficult for you to sit in silence?
Have you walked alone or travelled alone without feeling uneasy?
If yes, then you have empowered yourself as an individual.
Self-comfort is addictive.
Getting married to solitude was the best decision I made. No validation, no self-doubt, no chase, just a clear perception about life.
This attitude transformed my life. I became more productive and developed gratitude.
Sometimes, we have to risk our hearts to understand ourselves better.
No feeling stays forever. Not even the sense of loneliness, because with self-reflection it turns into solitudeness. This is the time when you began your real journey.